Steve is a 50-something married man who's been around the block. Mia is a 20-something single immersed in the Center City dating scene. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers. If you'd like an answer to your romantic troubles, e-mail them at S&M@phillynews.com or write: S&M c/o Daily News, Box 7788, Philadelphia, PA 19101.

I am currently in my 20s. The most erotic moment of my life took place when I was 17 and had a threesome with two hot girls in my class. I taped the encounter and still have the tape. My question is: Since I was 17 and the girls were 16 or 17, is it kiddie porn? Can I get in trouble for owning this? I have shown it to some of my buds in the last few months.

Steve: I think you are on very shaky ground showing this tape to your buddies. Beyond the issue of kiddie porn, the girls could have grounds for a civil suit. Besides, isn't it a little bit tacky to betray these girls that way?

Mia: If I were you I'd keep your "Underage Hotties" video strictly for private screenings. Better safe than sorry. Also, stop reliving the past and try to seek out a new most-erotic-moment, preferably with a woman - or women - above the legal age of consent.

My daughter has just gotten engaged and wants to get married next summer. Her father and I are happy to pay for a wedding and are lucky enough to be able to afford a very nice reception. I thought it would be a chance for my daughter and I to spend some time together planning a wedding, but she has refused all offers of help and acts put out when I make any comments. I'm starting to feel like a bank. Do I need to remind her that we're paying $20,000 for this affair, or should I bite my tongue?

Mia: Try to make a date with your daughter for lunch and politely talk about how you'd like to be involved. Don't hold the money over her head if you can help it, because it will only lead to hurt feelings. Instead, talk about how weddings are a time for families to come together and celebrate, and you'd like to be involved in the planning.

Perhaps make a couple of suggestions where you could be a big help - assembling invitations or working on the seating arrangements, for example. She may not realize how much she is hurting you because she's so caught up in being a bride and no doubt is anxious about the big day.

Steve: Big family events like this are guaranteed stress makers. Your daughter is likely to have some ideas about the reception that you won't agree with. That's the time to bite your tongue. But if you combine an offer to help with a promise that you won't second-guess her, she should accept your offer.

I recently found out that a girlfriend from high school (we broke up shortly after graduating) got married. I'm happily married myself, but I did find myself searching the Internet for her wedding Web site and reading about her relationship. Does this mean I'm not over her?

Steve: Surely you wouldn't have married if you weren't over the old girlfriend. Not to mention you are "happily" married, a rare thing. I'd chalk it up to curiosity and not give it a second thought.

Mia: Everyone searches the Internet for old exes. It's what you do on a slow day at work. Just don't dwell on it. Read the site once - make fun of her lousy registry choices - and move along.

Six years ago I met a lady through a newspaper ad. After four months I bought her a ring, and we made plans to get married in Las Vegas. Two months later she walked out on me, talking the ring and $4,000. I took her to court and got reimbursed. We haven't spoken since, but the other day she called me and we met for a talk. I want to date her again, but I'm not sure. Should I do it?

Mia: Why invite heartache and financial ruin a second time around? You know that "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" line, right? Learn it. Live it. And start dating other women immediately.

Steve: While past performance is not a perfect indicator of future success, it does suggest the odds are against a happy ending. I say go back to Vegas and roll the dice with someone else.

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